Falling Out of Love with Teaching

Somewhere along the way, that spark for teaching began to dim, and now, you find yourself wondering if you've fallen out of love... and that's ok.

Do you remember the spark? The passion that ignited your journey into teaching? The feeling that you were making a real difference? But somewhere along the way, that spark began to dim, and now, you find yourself wondering if you've fallen out of love with teaching. If this resonates with you, please know that you're not alone.

For many of us, there isn't ONE thing. One dramatic event that breaks out heart and leaves us vowing it's over.

For the vast majority of teachers and leaders I work with, it's more like a slow fade... for many, they couldn't even begin to pinpoint when their passion began to turn to weariness.

As a profession driven by passion and purpose, over the years, after yet another change, the disconnect between professional values and lived experiences can lead to a sense of disillusionment.

Even in a supportive environment, the long hours, the ever-increasing demands, and the emotional load can take their toll, leaving you feeling drained and unfulfilled. Just a note here to say that working in a "good" school doesn't mean you're not allowed to want more...

Falling out of love, is a gradual process, often so subtle that you barely notice it happening.

You might find yourself:

Dreading Monday mornings.
Feeling less engaged in your lessons.
Experiencing a sense of detachment from your students.
Questioning your purpose and direction.

These feelings can be confusing and HEAVY, especially when you once felt so deeply connected to your work.

Recognising the Signs

Some of the signs you might experience (and possibly see in others) might be

Emotional Exhaustion: Feeling constantly drained and overwhelmed, even on weekends and holidays.

Cynicism and Detachment: Becoming increasingly negative about your work and feeling disconnected from your students and colleagues.

Reduced Sense of Accomplishment: Feeling like your efforts are not making a difference and questioning your impact.

Physical Symptoms: Experiencing headaches, stomachaches, sleep problems, or other physical manifestations of stress.

The Burden of Guilt: It's Not You, It's the Situation

Falling out of love with teaching often comes with a heavy burden of guilt. You might feel like you're betraying your students, your colleagues, or even your own ideals. But it's important to remember that it's not you who has failed; sometimes it's the system that has failed you, sometimes the role changes, sometimes you change. That does not equal failure.

Teaching is a demanding profession, and it's unrealistic to expect anyone to maintain unwavering passion in the face of constant pressure and stress. It's okay to acknowledge that your feelings have changed, and it's okay to consider a different path.

Reclaiming Your Well-being: A Gentle Path Forward

Recognising that you've fallen out of love with teaching is not a sign of weakness; it's a sign of self-awareness. It's an opportunity to reclaim your well-being and explore new possibilities.

Here are some gentle steps you can take:

Allow Yourself to Grieve: It's okay to feel sad, disappointed, or even angry. Acknowledge these emotions and allow yourself time to process them.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. You've given so much to your students and your profession. You deserve to prioritise your own happiness.
Reflect on Your Values: What truly matters to you? What kind of work brings you joy and fulfilment? Use these reflections to guide your next steps.
Explore Your Options: There are many fulfilling careers outside of teaching. Your skills and experience are valuable in a variety of fields.
Seek Support: Talk to trusted friends, family members, or a career coach. The Adventures After Teaching Academy provides a supportive community where you can connect with others who understand what you're going through.

Finding New Beginnings: A Hopeful Future

Falling out of love with teaching doesn't mean the end of your professional journey; it's an opportunity for a new beginning. It's a chance to rediscover your passions and create a life that aligns with your values.

Remember, you're not alone. Many educators have experienced this journey, and many have found fulfilling careers outside of the classroom. You have the strength and resilience to create a future that brings you joy and purpose.

It is okay, and you are going to be okay.

If you think that you might be falling out of love with teaching, and would like some help to start searching for your new beginning, I'd love for you to join our free Stay or Go? event. Hosted in our private community app, this event offers connection, clarity, and confidence as we explore your skills, options and possible next steps. Find out more here ➡️ https://www.adventuresafterteaching.com/f/stay-or-go-easter-2025